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Submission: Google's dictionary defines submission as "the action or fact of accepting or yielding to a superior force or to the will or authority of another person." Submitting means putting others before yourself; it means not always doing what you want to do.
1 Peter 3:3-6
2 Likewise, wives, be subject to your own husbands, so that leven if some do not obey the word, they may be won without a word by the conduct of their wives, when they see your respectful and pure conduct.
3 Do not let your adorning be external—the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear—
4 But let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God’s sight is very precious.
5 For this is how the holy women who hoped in God used to adorn themselves, by submitting to their own husbands,
6 as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord. And you are her children, if you do good and do not fear anything that is frightening.
Colosians 3:18
18 Wives, submit yourselves to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord.
Ephesians 5:21-25
21 Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.
22 Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord.
23 For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior.
24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.
25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her
The Bible talks about submission in a lot of ways. In fact it is the same root word for subjection. (ὑποτασσόμενοι (hypotassomenoi) - 1 Pet 2:18) It can be link God had put all things, or subdue, or in James 4:7, or laying down as in Romans (16:4) or in some case taking refuge as in Acts 27:14
The problem of submission
- Is this a good choice for me
- Submission is the act of knowing the greater choice
- Is this person good in nature
- Submission is Relational
- Is this choice morally good
- Submission is primarily God directed
The problem of compromise
Compromise is often portrayed as the solution around submission.
But it has the two problems
- The introduction of competition
- When will I get my way through?
- The unsatisfied option
- A good compromise is one where both parties are dissatisfied.
The false joy rooted in having to put up with my spouse: I am not interested in my partner until she is of my opinion
What submission is not
- It's not agreeing on everything
- It’s not being brainless (Leadership in Serving)
- It’s not trying to not edify your spouse (v,2 )
- It's not ignoring Christ’s will over husbands (v4,5)
- It’s not making husband her Rabbi (v 5)
- It's not being in fear (v6)
The solution
Mutual Submission but unto the Lord.
Submission is the defined calling of a wife to honor and affirm her husband’s leadership, and so help to carry it through according to her gifts - John Piper
In marriage God calls men to be men and women to be women. Marriage means Biblical leadership like that of Christ and biblical submission like that of Christ. Gen 2:18 says that there is a suitable helper.
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